Heart Full Moments – August 2017

Wise words and good things to warm your heart

As promised, here’s my August collection of the wisest words and best things I’ve read or come across this month, that when reflected upon, will add meaning and solace to your life. Enjoy…


A monthly feature of “Listening with Heart” sharing wise words, meaningful things read or good things found, to help warm your heart.

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“Perhaps home is not a place but simply an irrevocable condition.” – James Baldwin

“Relax and dwell peacefully in every moment. Go back to breathing. Try to be in each moment deeply. There is possibility to handle every kind of event. Respond to every moment with compassion. Keep the peace in yourself.” – Thich Nhat Hanh

“Deep listening is the kind of listening that can help relieve the suffering of the other person. You can call it compassionate listening. You can listen in the way that helps him or her to empty their heart, and remember that listening with compassion helps him or her to suffer less. Start with Dear friends, dear people I know that you have suffered a lot. I have not understood enough of your difficulties and suffering. It is not my intention to make you suffer more. It is the opposite. So please tell me about your suffering, your difficulties.  I’m eager to learn, to understand. This is how loving speech has to start. If you are honest, if you are true, the other person will open their heart and tell us their difficulties. And then we practice compassionate, deep listening. And during the process of deep listening we can learn so much about our own perception and their perceptions. And that is the best way – the only way – to end terrorism.”  – Thich Nhat Hanh

“Never lose a holy curiosity.” – Albert Einstein

“Remember, if you want something to appear in your life, it has to appear in your thoughts first.” – Wallace Wattles

“It is the responsibility of leadership to work intelligently with what is given, and not waste time fantasizing about a world of flawless people and perfect choices.” – Marcus Aurelius

A meaningful silence is always better than meaningless words

Alone we go faster. Together we go further. –  African proverb

“Asking for help is always a sign of strength.” – Michelle Obama

“There’s a big difference between writing about something you disagree passionately with, and writing while in the throes of rage.” – Word Press tips for making comments on blogs

“The mind creates the abyss, the heart crosses it.” – Sri Nisargadatta

Inaction is a form of action, because if you CHOOSE to stay in the stable, safe place instead of going for your dreams, then you’re making a CHOICE to stay stuck. The action you’re choosing to take is no action at all.

“We lose touch with our wingspan when we hunch.” – Martin Shaw

Brother David Steindl-Rast “Nature. Beauty. Gratitude.” video – stirring and lovely.

Praise be to the mystery that has created this life. – Jewish prayer- Baruch Hashem L’Olam

Cheryl Strayed & Marie Forleo video – lovely

“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure that you seek.” – Joseph Campbell

“All great successes have struggled, and had setbacks along the way.”  – Danny Iny

For example….

Winston Churchill’s parents ignored him, he did poorly in school, he stuttered, and spoke with a lisp. They called him a disappointment, and a boy of “low intelligence.”

After failing to land a role, Meryl Streep nearly gave up on acting when a director called her “too ugly.”

Steven Spielberg was rejected from the USA film school 3 times.

After his first performance, Elvis Presley was told “you ain’t going nowhere, son. You ought to go back to driving a truck.”

Dr. Seuss was turned down by 27 different publishers.

Abraham Lincoln’s fiancé died, he failed in business, he suffered multiple nervous breakdowns, and was defeated in 8 different elections.

At age 30, Steve Jobs was left depressed and devastated after being fired from the company he founded.

Ludwig Van Beethoven’s music teacher said that “as a composer, he is hopeless.”

Oprah Winfrey was demoted from her job as a news anchor, because she “wasn’t fit for television.”

Walt Disney was fired from a newspaper because he “lacked imagination” and “had no original ideas.”

Thomas Edison’s teacher told him he was “too stupid to learn anything.”

After being cut from his high school basketball team, Michael Jordan went home, locked himself in his room, and cried.

The Beatles were rejected by a recording studio that said “We don’t like their sound. They have no future in show business.”

And Albert Einstein wasn’t able to speak until he was 4, and he couldn’t read until he was 7. His parents and teachers worried that he might be mentally handicapped and said that “he would never amount to much.”

So yeah.
Take a moment.
Let it all sink in.
It’s supposed to be hard.
The key isn’t for it not to be hard, but rather to keep on going.
It’s scary, but we have to do it anyway. ”

“Life is uncomfortable. You can be less uncomfortable now on your terms or more uncomfortable later on someone else’s terms.” ⁃ Joe Zárate- Sanderlin

Hold anger without taking it on. Become friends with discomfort.

“The good news is, all over the country people are fighting hate, standing up to promote tolerance and inclusion. More often than not, when hate flares up, good people rise up against it — often in greater numbers and with stronger voices.” – Southern Poverty Law Center

Ten Ways to Fight Hate – A Community Response Guide – Southern Poverty Law Center

“When it is dark enough, you can see the stars.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Humankind – Voices of hope and humanity – podcast aims to enliven the highest part of us with ideas, stories and profiles of inspiring humanitarians.

“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” – Barack Obama

“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin or his background or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Nelson Mandela (and tweeted by Barack Obama after Charlottesville)

“I imagine that one of the reasons that people cling to their hate and prejudice so stubbornly is because they sense that once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with their own pain.” – James Baldwin

“I want to understand the current tide of white nationalism and racism so the fear and anger it promotes does not take over my own heart. For with understanding I can respond with courage, wisdom and compassion for the benefit of all.” – Jack Kornfield

“Hatred never ceases by hatred but by love alone is healed. This is the ancient and eternal law.” – Maha Ghosananda

In these polarized and deeply troubled times, we are called upon to deepen our own practice of steadiness, courage, mindfulness and love…

“Quieting your mind, opening your heart with loving awareness, these are the critical steps to begin. For without doing so, you will only add to the chaos and fear. You must bear witness to your own measure of fears and pain, and honorably see and feel your place in our shared, troubled history. With a wise and caring heart you can understand the systems of privilege and oppression and your own place in them. There is a magnificence to the human spirit as well as a dangerous and destructive side. Difficult times can ennoble us, and call forth new levels of dedication and care for our lives, our families, our communities, and this precious globe.” – Jack Kornfield

From the ‘Mom’ show:
“That’s why the program works! People tell their stories and everybody listens and then people feel heard.”

Paulo Freire, brilliant thinker and author of “Pedagogy of the Oppressed,” noted in that work that, “the oppressed, instead of striving for liberation, tend themselves to become oppressors.”

“If today were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you are about to do today?” – Steve Jobs

Clemson’s football facility has a giant slide right outside the meeting rooms to go downstairs and then straight out to practice, that all the football players (and coaches) wait in long line to take (instead of the stairs right next to the slide). The coach says “There’s a momentum that builds – there’s no way you’re not a little better than you were 4 seconds earlier before sliding. The slide makes you happy and ready for practice.”

May you be free from hate.
May you be free from fear.
May you be free from ignorance.

“May all beings be safe and protected.” – Jack Kornfield

May your heart be warmed or softened or soothed or inspired by these heart-full moments…

If you or someone you love needs help dealing with stress, anxiety, loss, depression, please contact me for a therapy appointment.

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Listening with Heart
Cindi Rivera, MFT
Marriage, Family Therapist
(510) 482-4445

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