Heart-Full Moments September 2017

Wise Words to Warm your Heart

Stress relief, stress reduction, resilience, compassion

  • “The beginning of love is the will to let those we love be perfectly themselves, the resolution not to twist them to fit our own image. If in loving them we do not love what they are, but only their potential likeness to ourselves, then we do not love them: we only love the reflection of ourselves we find in them”. -Thomas Merton
  • “We do better when we let go of our logical reasons for why we want to do something. Why? Because research shows that good, solid, logical reasons for doing something—like exercising because we want to lower our blood pressure or ward off cancer—don’t actually motivate us over the long haul. It turns out that emotions are far more motivating than achievement goals in the long run.” – Christine Carter
  • “Peace in oneself;
    Peace in the world.”
    – Elisha Goldstein
  • “What the world needs now is love, sweet love. It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of. What the world needs now is love, sweet love. No not just for some but for everyone.” – Song by Diana Ross
  • President Obama greeting people affected by an F5 tornado in Joplin, Missouri that killed more than 100 people in 2011: “But that does not mean we are powerless in the face of adversity,” he said. “How we respond when the storm strikes is up to us. How we live in the aftermath of tragedy and heartache, that’s within our control. And it’s in these moments, through our actions, that we often see the glimpse of what makes life worth living in the first place.”
  • “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” -Simon Weil
  • “What you do for yourself, any gesture of kindness, any gesture of gentleness, any gesture of honesty and clear seeing toward yourself, will affect how you experience your world. In fact, it will transform how you experience the world. What you do for yourself, you’re doing for others, and what you do for others, you’re doing for yourself.” -Pema Chodron
  • “However difficult your circumstances, however uncertain the times, remember, freedom is not reserved for exceptional people. No one can imprison your spirit. You don’t have to wait to be free. You don’t need to postpone being happy.”
    -Jack Kornfield
  • “Finding freedom is an active process that engages your intellect, your heart, and your whole spirit. We begin personally, with freedom of spirit, freedom to start over, freedom beyond fear, freedom to be yourself, and then discover freedom to love, freedom to stand up for what matters, freedom to be happy. The means and the goal are one—be yourself, dream, trust, and act. You can choose your spirit. Freedom, love, and joy are yours, in your very life, your exact circumstance. They are your birthright. You can choose freedom.” -Jack Kornfield
  • “You are not your mind.” -Eckhart Tolle
  • According to a recent survey commissioned by Microsoft, we lose our focus faster than a goldfish. The glaring takeaway was a quote in the report by Microsoft chief Satya Nadella, who signaled the trait most essential to modern employees seeking success: “The true scarce commodity of the future will be human attention.”
  • “I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” -Mindfulness App reminder
  • “I swear I will not dishonor my soul with hatred, but offer myself humbly as a guardian of nature, as a healer of misery, as a messenger of wonder, as an architect of peace.” – Diane Ackerman
  • WASHINGTON, D.C. – Following President Donald Trump’s decision to end the Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals (DACA) program, U.S. Senator Kamala D. Harris, a member of the Homeland Security and Governmental Affairs Committee and co-sponsor of the DREAM Act and the Agricultural Worker Program Act, released the following statement:

“DACA recipients make our nation strong and represent the best of America. The President’s decision undermines our nation’s values and is a cruel betrayal to the more than 800,000 young people, including more than 200,000 Californians, who have only ever known the United States of America as their home.

“Dreamers are Americans in every way except a piece of paper. With this decision, President Trump is telling classmates of our children they don’t belong, employees of Fortune 100 companies they aren’t welcome, and saying to those who serve in our military and run small businesses that they should leave. These young people deserve better than that. They came out of the shadows and submitted every detail of their personal lives to prove that they were lawful, productive members of our society. By turning his back on our young Dreamers and their families, President Trump has once again sided with division and hate.

“The consequences of this decision will be devastating. It will split up families, force young people back to countries they never knew, and cost our economy billions of dollars. It is heartless.

“Now more than ever, it is time we roll up our sleeves and stand with these young people who contribute to our community and our economy. Republicans in Congress must immediately allow a vote on the DREAM Act, a bipartisan bill we introduced again this summer. We are better than this.”

And in Spanish:

  • Declaración de la Senadora Harris sobre la decisión de Trump de Rescindir a DACA

WASHINGTON, D.C. – Tras la decisión del Presidente Donald Trump de rescindir al programa de Acción Diferida para los Llegados en la Infancia (DACA, siglas en inglés), la Senadora Kamala D. Harris, miembro del Comité de Seguridad Nacional y Asuntos Gubernamentales del Senado y copatrocinadora del DREAM Act y el Agricultural Worker Program Act, publicó la siguiente declaración:

“Los beneficiarios de DACA hacen que nuestra nación sea fuerte y representan lo mejor de los Estados Unidos. La decisión del Presidente socava los valores de nuestra nación y es una traición cruel a los más de 800,000 jóvenes, incluyendo a más de 200,000 Californianos que sólo han conocido a los Estados Unidos como su hogar.

“Dreamers son americanos en toda manera, menos en una hoja de papel. Con esta decisión, el Presidente Trump está diciendo a los compañeros de clase de nuestros hijos que no pertenecen, a los empleados de las compañías “Fortune 100” que no son bienvenidos y a aquellos que sirven en nuestro ejército y dirigen pequeñas empresas que deben irse. Estos jóvenes merecen mejor. Salieron de las sombras y presentaron todos los detalles de su vida personal para demostrar que eran miembros productivos de nuestra sociedad y viviendo legalmente. En dándole la espalda a nuestros jóvenes Dreamers y sus familias, el Presidente Trump ha una vez más tomado partido con la división y el odio.

“Las consecuencias de esta decisión serán devastadoras. Dividirá a las familias, obligará a los jóvenes a volver a países que nunca conocieron y costara a nuestra economía miles de millones de dólares.

“Ahora más que nunca, es tiempo de que arremanguemos las mangas y nos pongamos de pie con estos jóvenes que contribuyen a nuestra comunidad y nuestra economía. Los republicanos en el Congreso deben permitir inmediatamente una votación sobre el DREAM Act, un proyecto bipartidista que introdujimos nuevamente este verano. Somos mejores que esto.”

  • “It is easier to build strong children than it is to repair broken men.”
    – Frederick Douglass.
  • “Everyday Heroes: Signs of Humanity Amid Harvey Disaster: In the misery of the disaster created by Harvey in Texas and Louisiana, stories of citizens helping one another have begun surfacing.
    • Rafi Engelhart and Ben Shushan are just two examples of  how are dozens of people— hundreds—  have performed acts of humble heroism amid this storm. Though Engelhart’s home was flooded by Harvey, he and an EMT, took an inflatable raft through the streets of Houston looking for ways they could help fellow Texans. This simple act led them to save the lives of eight people who otherwise would have remained trapped in their flooding homes.
    • A group of men banding together collectively pushed a stalled pickup through a flooded street in Houston on Sunday, a photo that is quickly becoming synonymous with the bursts of unity displayed during this storm.
    • These stories serve as a reminder that regardless of race, creed, religion, gender, sexual orientation, we are all one people, under one sun on one earth, and we’re all in this together.” – The Weather Channel
  • “It’s not just that “two steps forward and one step back” is par for the course. The greater challenge is that human nature fixates on the step back and forgets the steps forward.”
    – Danny Iny
  • “When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.”
    -His Holiness the Dalai Lama
  • “Anyone that has the power of self-reflection, has the power to re-invent themselves. Or find the better version of themselves. At any point in time.” – Marie Raymond
  • For the Lakota Sioux, grief is considered a great gift because they believe the gods are closest to us when we are suffering. When a Lakota Sioux has suffered a great loss and is grieving, he or she is considered wacan, or “most holy.” Their prayers are believed to be especially powerful, and others will often ask one who grieves to pray on their behalf.
  • The Sufis pray, “Overcome any bitterness that may have come because I am not up to the magnitude of the pain that has been entrusted to me.”
  • After struggling for half a century with the British Empire, Mahatma Gandhi said that his most formidable opponent was not the British Empire or the Indian people, but a man named Mohandas K. Gandhi. “With him I seem to have very little influence.”
  • The average person has 60,000 thoughts per day, according to the Cleveland Clinic. Of those thoughts: 95% repeat each day, and, on average, 80% of repeated thoughts are negative.  Ask yourself “Is this useful?” -about your negative thoughts.  Eric Barker, who runs the blog Barking Up the Wrong Tree. In a recent post about emotional strength, Barker explains that we can’t control which thoughts “bounce around” in our mind. What we can control: the thoughts we focus on. “You’re the thing that decides which thoughts are useful and should be taken seriously,” he writes. And he shared a perfect analogy to better explain this: “You’re not your brain; you’re the CEO of your brain. You can’t control everything that goes on in ‘Mind, Inc.’ But you can decide which projects get funded with your attention and action.”  So, how do you decide which “projects” get funded? Barker says to ask yourself, “Is this useful?” It’s a tactic Barker learned from Joseph Goldstein, a Buddhist mindfulness expert. It’s designed to help you assess if a thought is serving you or others–or if it’s just irrational.  “If the worry is reasonable, do something about it,” Barker writes. “If it’s irrational or out of your control, recognize that. Neuroscience shows that merely making a decision like this can reduce worry and anxiety.” -Haley Goldberg
  • “And so, if you’re not literally standing on a patch of dirt in this moment, call it up in your mind’s eye: mountain peaks, rolling green hills, a vast expanse of desert earth.  Find the ground you love, and in your mind, stand on it.  Lie on it.  Give your weight to that ground.  Let it hold you.  Feel that ground in every cell, and breathe….” – Marina Smerling
  • “Right now it’s like this…” -Enrique Collazo
  • “It is well researched and documented that the social, economic and psychological impact of deportation, or the stress of a threat of deportation, can have devastating effects on the mental well-being of children and adults.  Thus, we are gravely concerned about the traumatic and psychological harm that will result from the actions of the Trump administration to rescind the Deferred Action for Childhood Arrivals without also proposing a pathway to US citizenship for these individuals. We are concerned about the impact on our college campuses across the state as well as the economic impact the removal of the program will have on our state.” -California Psychological Association
  • “Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.” -Mark Twain
  • As Rebecca Solnit aptly put it: “Joy doesn’t betray but sustain activism. And when you face a politics that aspires to make you fearful, alienated and isolated, joy is a fine act of insurrection.”
  • “Choose courage over comfort.… Dehumanization is not a social justice tool. When we use dehumanizing language it says much more about us than the people that we’re railing against and it chips away at our soul…” -Brene Brown
  • “Opting out of speaking out because we may get criticized is the definition of privilege … at the end of the day I want to be able to say that I contributed more than I criticized.” -Brene Brown
  • The deep stillness we seek does not arise because the world is still, or the mind is quiet. Stillness is nourished when we allow things to be just as they are for now, in this moment, breath by breath.” – Mark Williams
  • “Patience is not just the ability to wait, it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.”
    -Joyce Meyer
  • “The way I understand it is that I am only responsible for my own will and my own perception—I do not control the will nor the perception of another individual. To not take things personally is to not assume responsibility for another individual’s will nor perception, I only assume responsibility for my own will and perception.”
    -Miguel A. Ruiz, Jr.
  • “Change the story and you change perception; change perception and you change the world.” -Jean Houston

May your heart be warmed or softened or soothed or inspired by these heart-full moments…

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Listening with Heart
Cindi Rivera, MFT
Marriage, Family Therapist
www.cindiriveratherapy.com
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